Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Relationships and Food

I've been on the road for work for 22 days in Feb and March.  When I am not actually in an airplane or a hotel, I stay with my parents.  They are very healthy eaters.  Home cooked meals most nights, meat, tons of veggies, wheat free meals.  When I am flying, I pack a lunch kit full of veggies and chicken and when that's all I have, that's all I eat.

 But it got me thinking how huge a role our relationships play in our diet.  My husband will eat pretty much any meal I make, but does not step foot in the kitchen other than to blend a smoothie or re-heat take-out leftovers when I am not in town.  He loves fried chicken, tacos and burgers.  If we eat out, we tend to at places that serve less than healthy food.  Sometimes I find the motivation to eat healthy is just too hard when I feel like I am trying to motivate for two people.

Having meals with friends back in Canada drives this home - most of my friends are healthy eaters or are on plans I've created for them.  "Cheat" meals are planned for but we'll often create healthy food at home.  When Atina, who I 've talked about often, and I were both still living in Houston, we'd support each other in healthy habits, even while our husbands downed Chick-Fil A in front of us!

My motivation, determination and discipline is strong.  Coming to Canada once a month really adds to that focus.  But when I get back to Austin, I struggle much more.  This is not a blame of anyone at all - anything that goes in my mouth is my choice and my choice alone.

But what role do you think relationships, whether spouses, family members, friends, or co-workers, play in your eating habits? Do they help? Do they hinder?


  1. Interesting. I know my eating changes depending on who I'm with partly because it's easier to just go with the flow. Perhaps that's not a good think because then I do sometimes eat things I would not normally eat and in fact, I usually regret it. I get tired of explaining that I don't usually eat wheat or beef and that I try to avoid sugar. I feel as if I'm causing a host a problem or as if I'm being judged as someone who is just following the latest craze. In actual fact I do feel better if I don't eat wheat or sugar and my arthritis is less aggravated if I avoid all three. I should just stick to my guns...hate the should word, but I should!

    1. I know what you mean! I hate explaining what I will and won't eat especially because I'm often experimenting with cutting out foods to see what makes me feel the best. It's hard to say I don't eat this or I don't eat that when last week I did!

      I try to be accommodating when I'm at someone's home but I do wonder why when it's health related but by choice we don't feel right saying we can't or won't eat something. Nobody would expect a diabetic to down a big slice of cake to be polite, no one would expect someone with a peanut allergy to eat peanuts to be polite - why dont we value how we feel and what we know about our own health and how our bodies feel with certain foods to put politeness to the side for health?

    2. I think it's because there is nothing obvious to anyone else when we make the choices we are making - diabetics, or people with severe allergies show signs of their problems. We don't really, other than perhaps being bitchy! I won't die if I eat certain things, I just won't feel great for a day or so. It seems a lot of ask someone not to make something when they are cooking dinner for you. I do think tho, that it might be even more important to get exercise - something you really enjoy because that will always up my mood!

  2. You took the words right out of my mouth J.
    I agree wholeheartedly. My girlfriends and my sister are my motivation. Don't get me wrong - E is lovely and he has started to eat healthier and supports my clean eating plans - but he thinks nothing of having cookies or a pie for lunch.
    When I am working out and I want to quit, I always think 'What would Julia do?' She would just go on running right now, so that is what I am going to do. Or I think 'Man 20 pounds is amazing go Nicole! I can do that too!'
    My motivation comes from knowing that I have loved ones out there with a common goal. And I can't wait to see them again.
    BTW. We are totally going to have to Grouse Grind it in May!