Wednesday, January 8, 2014

This is my journey

The other day I was texting with my trainer and he sent me a photo of his food prep. He's competing this summer as well and I texted back "great, solidarity! Especially cause my husband was eating pastry next to me yesterday." I was totally joking around (Sean was eating pastry but he had asked me ahead of time if it bothered me and I had insisted, honestly, that as this point it's actually easier for me if I don't have to worry about forcing him to eat what I'm eating or feel badly that he's restricting himself for me) but instantly my trainer asked if he was being supportive.

The truth is the support isn't about food. The only person who chooses what goes in my mouth is me. The support my husband offers is about so much more. Firstly, he believes in me - I think more than probably anyone else, he believes that I can compete, that I can be a fitness model if that's my goal and that I can accomplish any fitness goal I set for myself. Secondly, fitness competitions are not a cheap pass time. We share all our finances and he has never questioned any money I spend on training, work out gear, supplements or anything else related to this goal. That support is incredible. Thirdly, he massages any muscle that hurts, gets me ice packs or the heating pad when I need it and never suggests I shouldn't spend hard earned money on massages or any other preventative care. He also helps me get my weekly pull-ups in! Hey, I can't do them alone yet but I will one day!

So when people ask about what we're eating or if Sean has to eat what I eat or if he's supporting me in what I eat, I think they are missing the point. Yes, eating on point all the time is hard. There may come a point where I can't handle him eating pizza or cookies in front of me. But, this is MY journey. What I eat is my choice. How I train is my choice. How I hard I push myself is up to me. Not my husband and not anyone else. I love that I know I can ask him not to eat something really tempting in front of me but I think it's important to take ownership of this least until I'm really close to competing and down to minimal calories, carbs and patience!

What is your definition of support?

Do you need your family to eat what you eat when you're dieting to lose weight/fat?


  1. I love the way your husband supports you. My get support from my boo through his encouragement. The days when I don't want to work out, he will encourage me to "just do it" or remind of the reasons why I want to lose weight. And every time I run a 5K he always calls to give me pep talk before the race and then calls afterwards to see how the race went.

    1. Having support much such a big difference. I don't need him to eat or train the way I do, I just need him to not complain that I'm strict and to believe in me - and he definitely does that!

      Glad to hear you've got someone in your corner too!

      Thanks for reading and commenting!